As much as they might hate to admit it, some people can get pretty judgemental. And while a few might tell you exactly as it is, others are likely to keep their comments of disapproval to themselves. Or at least behind your back.
Redditor u/gotwire was curious to find out what’s something people secretly judge others for. They posed the question to the ‘Ask Reddit’ community and received plenty of answers, ranging from disapproving of one’s parenting style to judging people who wouldn’t clean up after their dog. Scroll down to find more of redditors’ replies and see what they simply can’t let slide without a comment—even if only to themselves.
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Being over the top with any belief or affilliation they have.
You are a Christian? Cool with me, just don't shove your religion down my throat.
You came out as gay? Good for you. Don't want to hear about it all the time but not really a problem to me.
You like this politician but not the other? Okay, i don't know either of them so don't waste your breath explaining.
Vegan? Interesting choice, won't force you to eat anything you don't want, as long as you don't do the same to me.
Letting their kids roam around and destroying things in stores or restaurants.
Also letting them hurt others physically, it happened to my fiancé when we were at a birthday party, this 8 year old kept hitting him as hard as she could and he didn’t do anything in fear that it would cause drama.
My mum had to 'stretch a leg' in a restaurant once, shame the kid running around was just passing the table at the time
People crying in front of the camera and posting it on social media.
Wait wait, I’m about to have an emotional breakdown, let me record this next to the window
People who wear their mask below their nose.
My f*****g god it's been how many years since we've had to normalize mask wearing and people still can't get it the f**k right? It's not even mandatory to wear now! Just don't wear one!
I get so annoyed by seeing this. I mean I feel physically uncomfortable. And it's not serving the purpose it is supposed to!
If you play your music without headphones, you are for sure going to The Bad Place.
Teens that do TikTok dances in the middle of the shopping centre and get pissed when people keep walking in their shots. Like take it outside or do it at home.
Not cleaning up after your dog. If you do this, I believe you to be an a*****e. Cleaning off my shoe, or my kid's shoe, blasts a 15 minute hole in my already crazy busy day, all because you don't want to spend 5 seconds cleaning your dog's s**t. And don't fool yourself that nobody is going to step there. Kids, especially, step everywhere.
Saw a woman letting her dog poo on a path in a small wooded area immediately by a school where children play. I was walking my dog. So I challenged her about it 'and what's it got to do with you?' 🙄 Well, everything quite frankly! It has to do with everyone. No one should have to run the risk of stepping in dogs mess. I certainly don't want to! Outside a school and where children play?? Disgusting.
When people film s**t and don't help when something bad happens. Like if someone is hurt. Why are you still filming? Help them!
Like that poor bloody kid who got stabbed and literally bled out and died surrounded by people filming his last moments on their phones.
Face tattoos, especially words or phrases.
Not "you must be a criminal" but "You followed a really stupid trend in an effort to seem authentic".
1) How they treat their pets; 2) How they treat the waitstaff.
People who don't say thank you or please.
I work in retail. You'd be surprised how many people don't use these words.
People who can't have a conversation without bringing religion into it... I get it... you think you're being nice by saying your godly pleasantries, but please stop spiritualizing everything.
A good friend my whole life became born again and it’s so awkward and annoying when she brings up religion. And crazy things! My husband and I were having arguments a lot because “the devil was living in our house”. When she rides her horse she knows “Jesus is on the horse with her gripping her waist.” I see her less and less.
Giving a sentimental gift to someone and recording their emotional response. Even with permission, it feels like it takes away from the genuine gesture and turns it into something exploitative.
Bad driving. No turn signal, tailgating, treating the drive like a race.
Having kids by the dozens and then cry/beg/rant you don't got s**t for them or that you DESERVE for others to step up to take care of YOUR kids. B***h bye.
Or those parents who think they have a monopoly on being tired purely because they have multiple children; and those who don't have children couldn't possibly ever be as tired as a parent.
Hygiene. I had a coworker who pinched a loaf in the stall next to mine (our bathroom only had two stalls). It smelled terrible. When she was finished, she left without washing her hands and went straight to the break room fridge. She started touching and moving things around in there. From then on, I never put my food in the fridge and just kept it in an insulated bag at my desk. F*ck that s**t. Nasty people!
I CANNOT STAND UNHYGIENIC PEOPLE. If you have the resources to be clean then USE THEM
When people do good for others and video it to put online. I get that Aristotle says that the greatest good is a good that helps both parties.. but it doesn't sit well with me. In my experience, those who go out of their way to showcase how much a good person they are, are rarely a good person once you scratch past the thin mask.
People who litter are as trashy as they come. I’m not secret about it though.
Not neutering their dog 🐶.
Parents who are constantly yelling at their kids.
Plus parents who don't care to engage their children at all, too busy with social media
What they name their kids.
wblack79 replied:
If it’s a normal name with a weird spelling, I’m judging so hard.
MissFuzzyPants replied:
Try Quartney. Really. A teacher’s kid.
I always feel so bad for the kids who have to constantly correct people about their name's spelling
Talking on the phone in public, while being obnoxiously loud then bi**hing at everyone else for “violating their privacy”.
I would tell them to go be fruitful and multiply. Just not in those words.
People who make fun of those who mispronounce something. You never know a person's history. Maybe they learned that word reading. Maybe English isn’t their first language. Maybe …
If you drive a big, loud a*s truck. It kills me. They sound like they're really going fast and then you look and they're going 12 mph.
Talking about their Religion like they are better than everyone else just for believing in it.
Daily selfies. Makes me cringe. Okay, we get it, you think you look cute….again.
Cringiest is you take a selfie and caption ‘I’m so ugly’ knowing well you’re not, to get the responses you want to hear
Not being able to be on time. I don’t mean running late every once in a while. I’m talking about people who literally cannot bring themselves to be on time ever for anything. Get up earlier, set a timer, do something to fix it, or stop apologizing for being late because you clearly aren’t sorry. ETA I have ADHD. Being on time is important to me because if I didn’t prioritize it, I’d be late all the time. You’re allowed to be offended by being judged for it, but people are also allowed to be frustrated by you always being late. Trying to manage symptoms is part of having a healthier relationship with yourself and your disorders, especially if you expect people to empathize with them. I don’t openly shame people for being late, which is why this was my answer to “secretly judging,” but neurotypical or not, when a person is consistently late and makes no changes to better the situation, it’s extremely frustrating for and hurts the people around them.
Every time you are making others wait for you, you are stealing their life. I hate people being late but I also respect that some cultures are just late as a rule, I can adjust to the costomery fifteen minutes in the region I live in, but if someone is always late they are telling me that they don't care about anyone but themselves and I won't be making arrangements with them again.
Walking a dog without a leash outside of the designated areas, also, if you can not control your dog when it's off the leash in the designated areas, don't take it off the leash.
Doesn't matter what the size, breed, or temperament of your dog is. If you don't understand why, or still think it doesn't apply to you, you don't deserve a dog.
I don't like people who don't return their shopping carts, but I never say anything...
I'm disabled and park in handicap spaces. I always leave my cart by the parking spot (making sure it won't roll) because the cart acts as a walker and having it close to the parking spot is helpful. What I hate is people who park in handicap spots while waiting to pick up someone. If your car is in the spot, that spot isn't available.
Those who feel superior to others when they don't indulge in junk food or television.
People obsessed with getting married and planning their life around it. They judge me for not wanting to get married and have kids and I judge them for the opposite.
Older people when they can’t control their anger. 30+ and unable to control your anger: throw fits, regularly get visibly angry, no coping skills, etc.
Yeah, I’m judging you. Grow up.
Emotional impulse control can be a result of learned behavior, but it’s usually a result of a larger psychological issue. Anger management barely addresses the behavior in a cognitive way. When stronger psychotherapy is needed to address core issues. DBT and medication are the answers. But yes, there are spoiled & entitled people out there who’ve been conditioned into thinking a tantrum will get them their way.
Having their buttcrack out.
A little slip is fine if you realize immediately and then pull your pants up, but if you’re sitting at a table with several inches out for an extended period of time…how do you not feel the breeze going through that canyon??
Ah - the builder's cleavage lol. They'll likely end up with a bad back when they're older too.
The attention seekers on Facebook that post things like : (google maps screen shot of the local hospital) “well that was crazy!” And then they just watch the likes and the comments pour in, but they don’t respond to anything or give any details as to what happened.
nakedwithoutmyhoodie replied:
Vagueposting!
Anyone with an of the mostly right wing stickers on their car. These stickers include but are not limited to: molon labe, thin blue line, punisher, Calvin pissing on anything, let's go brandon, #FJBLGB (that was a new one to me the other day), or 3%er. You get the idea.
to hop on the comment: maybe so, but at least the left doesn't fetishize guns or get off on bigotry.
People who are Karen’s, Kevin’s, are entitled, claim to be influencers, ……
If their cat is an "outside cat". More likely to die early by getting hit by a car, eaten by a predator, or catching a disease or parasite. Also very harmful to the bird population.
This is a cultural difference. Here in the UK it is more normal to have a cat that lives indoors and can get in and out via a catflap than it is to have an indoor cat, although more and more people are starting to keep them in. When I went to get mine from the cat rescue,they required me to have outdoor access because it was considered cruel not to have it!
Making politics a core part of their identity.
Secret because getting into a conversation about it with those types is utterly exhausting and I'd rather avoid it.
Making sure that wherever they go they have to let everyone know what their political views are. The cashier at the grocery store or the guy behind the counter at the auto parts store doesn't need to know any of that. The same thing goes for employees. Expressing your views to me isn't part of your job description. So shut up and give me my change.
Overly macho men.
All that alpha man s**t. Wolves have alpha females, too, so by that logic where are all the so-called alpha women?
When they say “I seen something” instead of saw.
I know English isn't everyone's first language, and of course, exceptions are to be made for this. But if English is your first language, speaking it properly doesn't seem like too much to ask. Improper usage of a verb doesn't seem like an issue of regional dialect, as far as I know; an example of a regional dialect is how New Orleans/Louisianans use the term "making groceries" instead of saying "grocery shopping". I could be wrong: my specialty isn't linguistics. But in the workforce, etc., proper grammar is usually necessary. Why not use it all the time?
Smoking.
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Who knew that a post about people complaining about complaining/complainers would be so polarizing?!
This is exactly the sort of petty, judgmental content I've come to expect from BP.
Ah and here we have one of mine! People who saw the title, knew what type of post it would be, clicked on it, and is now complaining about it!
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While I think people should do whatever they want to as long as it doesn't negatively impact anyone else (bad parking, listing to music in public without earbuds, etc.), I secretly judge people who get pets from breeders. Yes, I know people always have some excuse about allergies, or having always wanted x and such breed since they were a little kid, but there are soooooo many animals in shelters in need of homes.
Well better a breeder than a pet store (aka most likely a puppy mill)
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Who knew that a post about people complaining about complaining/complainers would be so polarizing?!
This is exactly the sort of petty, judgmental content I've come to expect from BP.
Ah and here we have one of mine! People who saw the title, knew what type of post it would be, clicked on it, and is now complaining about it!
Load More Replies... While I think people should do whatever they want to as long as it doesn't negatively impact anyone else (bad parking, listing to music in public without earbuds, etc.), I secretly judge people who get pets from breeders. Yes, I know people always have some excuse about allergies, or having always wanted x and such breed since they were a little kid, but there are soooooo many animals in shelters in need of homes.
Well better a breeder than a pet store (aka most likely a puppy mill)
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